character defects are not where we're bad but where we're wounded.
Character defects are not where we're bad but where we're wounded. That does not mean we're not responsible for them, but only that admitting them should not bring shame. We were born to become more perfect expressions of God, and facing our imperfections is part of the process involved in getting there.
Often our character defects have their genesis in childhood wounds, but it doesn't really matter where we got them - they're ours now. As we admit them and release them, we start the process of their dissolution.
There is nothing God cannot do, including lifting me up from the depths of my despair. Whatever pain I might feel, He both sees it and understands it. As long as I will show Him my wound - no matter how ugly the face it takes in me - He will heal it, for such is His love,