on choosing to be better
Our clinging to old wounds might inspire sympathy for a time, or even temporary support. But it will not inspire invitations to start over, from other people or from the universe itself. Bitterness is hardly the personality trait that someone out there is looking to hire, partner with, promote, or invest in.
No matter what we have endured, there is probably someone out there who has been through worse. There are people who have experienced the most heinous things, and found a path forward into happiness and peace. There are things that happen in life after which we know we will never be the same. But which way it goes - whether we become bitter or better - is a choice that only we can make.